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Dec 2021
50m 5s

Esther Perel (Cheating 101)

Alex Cooper
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This week, Father Cooper sits down with Esther Perel. Esther is a psychotherapist who is recognized as one of the leading voices in modern relationships. Her most recent book, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity, explores why people cheat and provides guidance on what to do in the wake of discovering this ultimate form of betrayal. Alex presents Esther with a situation…you open your boyfriends iPad to find messages that reveal he is cheating on you. Esther walks us through step by step on how to respond in the moment and how to move forward. Do you admit to reading his messages? At what point do you stop reading? Is make-up sex the ultimate mistake? Who do you tell? How do you know if you should break-up? Tune in this week Daddy Gang to hear from the expert herself – Esther Perel. To hear more from Esther, listen to her podcast Where Should We Begin? Also, check out Where Should We Begin – a game of stories, created by Esther Perel and designed to unlock the storyteller within.

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