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Dec 2023
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Esther Perel on the One Thing That Will ...

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The renowned psychotherapist talks about the importance of accountability in generosity in her own life, and the one thing you can do right now, today, to make yourself happier.

Esther Perel is a psychotherapist and bestselling author. She has a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are huge bestsellers. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin?

In this episode we talk about:

  • How to get around the obstacles that hinder connection with other people 
  • The role of conflict in relationships and why we shouldn’t be afraid of it
  • Ways to get better at experiencing anxiety or discomfort so that you can better handle the ups and downs of life
  • And the simple thing you can do right now to make yourself happier 

Related Episodes:

Can Anxiety Be a Gift? | Dr. David Rosmarin

Lessons From the World’s Longest Scientific Study of Happiness | Dr. Robert Waldinger

How to Keep Friendships From Imploding | Esther Perel

Mating in Captivity | Esther Perel

Love in the Time of COVID | Esther Perel

Esther Perel: Turning Conflict Into Connection

Esther Perel on the Other A.I.: Artificial Intimacy (SXSW 2023)

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