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Dec 2023
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New Year, Same Grief (and the Math of Su...

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About this episode

Is acceptance overrated? What happens when you have to face a new year without your person in it (or without the health you used to have!)?  In this special two-part episode, we face the new year together - with special guest, historian, author, and queen of awkward conversations, Kate Bowler. 

 

In this episode we cover: 

 

  • How do you have hope for the year to come when right now maybe isn’t so great? 
  • Acceptance, moving forward, and ferocious self-advocacy
  • The Math of Suffering: this year, last year, and measuring love
  • Why social bonds matter, and what happens when no one sees you



We're re-releasing some of our favorite episodes from the first 3 seasons. This episode was originally recorded in 2021.

 

Looking for a creative exploration of grief? Check out the best selling Writing Your Grief course here.



About our guest:

Kate Bowler, PhD, is an associate professor of the history of Christianity in North America at Duke Divinity School. Author of the New York Times bestselling memoir, Everything Happens for a Reason (and Other Lies I’ve Loved). Her latest book, No Cure For Being Human (and Other Truths I Need to Hear), grapples with her diagnosis, her ambition, and her faith as she tries to come to terms with limitations in a culture that says anything is possible. 

 

Find her at katebowler.com and follow her on social media @katecbowler

 

About Megan: 

Psychotherapist Megan Devine is one of today’s leading experts on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don’t call grief. Get the best-selling book on grief in over a decade, It’s Ok that You’re Not OK, wherever you get books. Find Megan @refugeingrief

 

Additional resources:

Read Kate Bowler’s memoir Everything Happens for a Reason (and Other Lies I’ve Loved)

 

Read Kate’s latest book No Cure For Being Human (and Other Truths I Need to Hear)

 

Want to talk with Megan directly? Join our patreon community for live monthly Q&A grief clinics: your questions, answered. Want to speak to her privately? Apply for a 1:1 grief consultation here

 

Check out Megan’s best-selling books - It’s OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can’t Be Fixed

 

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