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Dec 2023
1h 11m

如果爱情不再是关系的核心:时代孤独症的一种解法

不合时宜TheWeirdo
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【主播的话】

本期节目感谢致力于“让天下没有孤独的人”的 Soul 的支持。

17 世纪,英国诗人约翰·多恩写到:“没有人是一座孤岛”,以此来描述人和人之间互相连接的状态。然而,在现代社会之中,我们却常常有一种身处人群之中,却倍感孤独的瞬间。这些瞬间如何被安放?成为了一个重要的社会学议题。人们既渴望变得亲近,却又害怕变得亲近。许多人在精神的荒岛上漂流。但要解决那最深处的孤独,仍然是需要依靠有意义的连结。

今天的时代早已不同于几十年前,人们不仅仅在自己的附近寻找爱人、朋友,建立社会关系。我们的快速移动,扩展了人们行动的边界,脱离了原本的乡土社会,但也带来了流动所带来的无法被妥善安置的孤独。人们建立小共同体、拥抱同温层的冲动,也来自于这样的情境。

因此,在这期节目里我们希望谈论这一困境与解法,人作为一种终身需要依赖的物种,在一个情感回应愈加疏离的年代里,总是在不断寻找着亲密关系体验的各种版本。

【本期主播】

若含:微博@_R若含

孟常:微博@孟常

王磬:微博@王磬

【相关阅读】

日落综合征

又称“黄昏综合征”或“日落现象”,是美国的一些学者提出的概念,用来描述老年痴呆患者在黄昏时分出现一系列的情绪和认知功能的改变,例如:情绪紊乱、焦虑、亢奋和方向感消失等

如果友情而不是婚姻,是生活的中心  WHAT IF FRIENDSHIP, NOT MARRIAGE, WAS AT THE CENTER OF LIFE?

大西洋月刊

【本期剧透】

04:19 想象一个不孤独的瞬间

12:12 对亲密关系的期待与现实不匹配,可能产生更大的孤独

18:03 在看到或体验特别好的事情的时候,感觉更加孤独

22:00 作为兴趣社交平台的 Soul 拓展了大家对于关系的想象

24:33 想象有一天大家不是通过婚姻,而是通过兴趣结成小组

26:09 孤独是因为我的情感过于脆弱,生活不够充实,还是有社会结构因素?

29:49 科学技术之发达,让抵抗孤独成为了一种产业

37:02 不合时宜主播们的MBTI分别是什么?

42:32 兴趣社交平台改变了人们构建关系的方式,对 i 人是挺友好的

48:41 我们文化中仍然对线上认识,甚至走向婚姻的情侣有一种耻感

01:00:17 我们为什么还是需要强关系?

【本期音乐】

片头:BeBop for Joey-Kevin MacLeod

片尾:Study and Relax-Kevin MacLeod

【Logo设计】刘刘(ins: imjanuary)

【文字】卓然

【后期制作】方改则

【互动方式】

微博@不合时宜TheWeirdo

YouTube@不合时宜

小红书@不合时宜

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