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Nov 2023
49m 40s

Healing 2.0: The Power of Apologies

Hidden Brain, Shankar Vedantam
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Why is it so hard to say 'I'm sorry?' In the final episode of our Healing 2.0 series, we talk with psychologist Tyler Okimoto about the mental barriers that keep us from admitting when we've done something wrong, as well as the transformative power of apologies 
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