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Oct 2023
59m 9s

Conflict as a Tool for Growth (Esther Pe...

Elise Loehnen
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“You cannot differentiate when you never fight. Fighting is also a tool for differentiation, for having two people be able to breed and grow inside a relationship. If all you try to do is avoid any friction, any conflict, and merge into one, then there is a relationship of two halves, not of two holes, basically, to put it in simple terms. So some people fin ... Show More
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