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Oct 2023
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#115: 5 Things Secure Couples Do Well

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

In today's episode, we're talking about 5 things that secure couples do really well to build safety, intimacy and connection in their relationships. We'll cover:

  • raising important issues and knowing when to let things go
  • prioritising connection, play and intimacy
  • validating each other's experience rather than needing to be right
  • balancing togetherness and separateness
  • engaging in meaningful repair when things go awry

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