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Oct 2023
40m 55s

Is it Reactive Abuse or Reactive Defense...

Abuse Survivor Network
About this episode

Brandon discusses Reactive Defense & the Reactive Defense Response, why it's significant, and how it's manipulated by abusers to shift blame onto their victims. You'll learn how these tactics are used to frame the abuser as the innocent party, manipulate victims into feeling guilt and shame, and even blackmail victims. We also shine a light on the widespread misconception of mutual abuse, and the importance of recognizing signs of Reactive Defense and Coercive Control as a whole. Join us as we navigate through these challenging topics, providing clarity and support along the way.

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Misogyny, Empathy, Controller, Imposter syndrome, Validation, Relationship, Psychopath, Personality types, Narcissistic, Narcissism, Jealous, Infidelity, Domestic violence, Cptsd, Child abuse, Psychotherapist, Codependency, Verbal abuse, Trauma therapy, Stalking, Sexual abuse, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Personality disorder, Narcissistic abuse, Manipulation, Financial abuse

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