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Oct 2023
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332: Breaking Down The ‘Alpha Male’ vs. ...

Monica Yates
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The Dangers of Buying Into The Narrative of “Toxic Masculinity” & How To Support Your Man To *Rise*


Another juicy episode for you, ladies AND men - and it’s an important episode *especially* in our culture today. Monica’s breaking down the difference between the “ALPHA MALE” & the “SOFT BOI” and how integral this is to our thriving as a society. We need this now more than ever!

She’s debunking myths about how the “alpha male” is inherently “toxic,” and shedding some light on the dangers of the “soft boi” & the way we’re conditioning boys, and men, today to be too feminine… this is a BIG topic, and one that you’ll definitely want to share and circle back to again & again!

Monica’s covering:

🌶️ Common traits of the “soft boi” and the healthy vs unhealthy “alpha male”

🌶️ The real meaning of “toxic masculinity” and how we’ve twisted it today

🌶️ How what we consider “toxic” will look different for all of us

🌶️ How dangerous it is to have men who are too soft & the primal nature of men

🌶️ The difference between inherent masculine traits vs feminine traits

🌶️ How trauma affects intimate relationships and leads to lacking trust

🌶️ Why men feel inherently “wrong” & how this affects sub/dom in relationships

🌶️ The danger of saying “all men need to apologize”

🌶️ Understanding your reticular activating system

🌶️ How mothers of boys play a pivotal role in raising good men

🌶️ Why there aren’t enough “good men” to marry today

🌶️ How you *actually* break the patterns of intergenerational trauma

🌶️ Things that women can be doing to support a man’s “alpha male” in coming out

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