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Apr 2025
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Your Therapist Needs Therapy 91 - The Be...

Jeremy Schumacher
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In this episode, Jeremy breaks down the toxic masculinity grift peddled by guys like Joe Rogan, Elon Musk, and Jordan Peterson. We look at how these so-called "alpha males" profit off insecurity, why their version of masculinity is just a performance, and the real mental health crisis affecting men. I also explore how gender is a social construct, why these grifts thrive on shame, and what actual healthy masculinity looks like. Spoiler: it’s not about dominance or control—it's about connection, care, and breaking free from bullshit gender norms.

Here is the clip referenced regarding pro wrestling and drag as gender performance: SmartyPants "Wrestling is Drag"


Jeremy has all his practice info at Wellness with Jer, and you can find him on Instagram and YouTube. To show your love for the show you can pick up some merch! We appreciate support from likes, follows, and shares as well!


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Podcasts about therapy do not replace actual therapy, and listening to a podcast about therapy does not signify a therapeutic relationship.

If you or someone you know is in crisis please call or text the nationwide crisis line at 988, or text HELLO to 741741. The Trevor Project has a crisis line for LGBTQ+ young people that can be reached by texting 678678.

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