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Sep 2023
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220. Dating Requires Your Effort (Contra...

Beatrice Kamau
About this episode

If you’re walking around telling yourself “I DESERVE a relationship…”

Sit down for a second. Let’s talk.

I say this because I love you: you do not “deserve” a relationship. 

You don’t deserve anything from another individual just because you want it. 

Imagine if you walked into a job interview. You did no prep. You did no research. You wore your sweats. And when they start asking you questions, you just go, “What do you mean? Why are you asking me this? I deserve this job. Just give it to me.”

They would look at you like you were FUCKING DELUSIONAL…because you’d have to be in order to act that way.

We all know we can’t act like that in most areas of our lives. But when it comes to dating…all that goes flying out the window, and suddenly we’re deep in our entitled princess energy, believing we deserve something we didn’t put in the work for.

If dating feels like it’s too hard, it’s probably because you’re approaching it with a heavy vibe of entitlement and need. But I promise you this: if you just shift this perspective, your dating life will be completely transformed.

 

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