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Sep 2023
1h 13m

The Idiot Guide to Divorce w/ Laura Cler...

Violet Benson
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TW: Discussion about eating disorder, alcohol and drug abuse, sobriety, and self harm

Ever wondered why you're not happy all the time? Well, you're not supposed to be! It's okay not to feel the sunshine every day, and sometimes, the cloudy moments are what make the sunny ones shine even brighter.

Today, Violetta welcomes Laura Clery, a comedian and influencer best known for her comedy sketches and vlogs about her day-to-day life on social media. Laura shares how she grew in popularity through her viral characters’ Pamela Pumpkin and Hellen Horbath, and later pivoted to documenting her day to day life in a comedic sense.

From the highs and lows of existence to the complexities of relationships and personal growth, each chapter delves into the real, unfiltered moments that define our lives; finding humor in life's little annoyances, or navigating the tumultuous waters of divorce. Join us as we laugh and ponder the human experience, one chapter at a time.     


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What to Listen For:

  • 00:00 Intro
  • 01:05 You’re not meant to feel happy all the time
  • 03:51 Do we look alike?
  • 06:33 The birth of Pamela Pumpkin 
  • 09:01 Then Helen Horbath came to be
  • 11:03 The failed pilot show, and then pregnancy came
  • 13:23 Manifesting what you want in life
  • 17:26 What’s driving me crazy right now
  • 20:12 When taxes don’t make sense to you
  • 21:22 Do you like talking to yourself?
  • 23:43 A thousand random thoughts
  • 28:51 I can’t imagine not existing…
  • 33:26 Constant criticism about your looks
  • 38:24 Competition is an illusion
  • 40:39 Why are you getting a divorce?
  • 43:23 Public breakup is never easy
  • 48:38 Slowing down on work and prioritizing mental health
  • 51:46 Implementing boundaries for inner peace
  • 54:37 The human resilience in any situation
  • 56:33 The effect of divorce on children
  • 58:12 What do you do when you’re about to relapse?
  • 01:02:21 You can only be strong for so long
  • 01:05:21 The Serenity Prayer  


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