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Sep 2023
1 h

How to Not Become Your Parent

Sven Erlandson
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Jennifer's life has been filled with "99% self hate." As a child, she never felt protected and had to protect her mother from her father's abuse. Although Jennifer would never allow her mother to parent her own daughter in the same way her mother did to her, she still unquestionably loves her mother. Sven works Jennifer through her painful life story of hand ... Show More
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