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Sep 2023
1h 29m

are you going to fit in or find your pat...

Mollie Adler
About this episode

What does it mean to live a life of true purpose and depth, especially when haunted by trauma, self-sabotage, or chronic emptiness? In this special episode, I sit down with legendary Jungian analyst Dr. James Hollis, whose latest work, A Life of Meaning: Relocating Your Center of Spiritual Gravity, addresses the question many of us find ourselves asking: “What does all of this mean?” For those recovering from abuse, neglect, or persistent inner turmoil, this conversation delves into why we feel trapped in self-sabotaging patterns and how we can transform our suffering into self-understanding.


Dr. Hollis, a leading voice in Jungian psychology, unpacks how we can break free from life-denying cycles by cultivating a meaningful relationship with our inner world. He shares how reconnecting with our true essence—not our past wounds—can bring healing, fulfillment, and genuine self-expression. Dr. Hollis’s wisdom offers a path toward a more examined life, moving beyond the limiting labels of "good" or "bad" and embracing our complex, whole selves.


Highlights and Key Questions Explored:

00:00 – 04:00: Introduction + listener voicemail reflections

04:14 – 10:21: What is Jungian psychology, and how does it foster a deeper, more transformative journey?

10:19 – 13:29: Why Jungian analysis offers a profound alternative to short-term approaches like CBT and DBT

13:29 – 17:30: Introducing Dr. James Hollis and his new book A Life of Meaning

17:34 – 25:25: Why do we repeat the same self-sabotaging behaviors, despite wanting to change?

25:20 – 27:56: How staying stuck in childlike patterns hinders adult self-growth

27:56 – 29:38: The roots of low self-worth in childhood and its lingering effects on adulthood

29:38 – 38:42: How to cultivate an inner life that nourishes your soul without losing touch with reality

38:42 – 50:25: Why living an examined life is essential for lasting inner peace

50:25 – 56:48: The risks of suppressing emotions—and the liberation that comes from facing them

56:48 – 01:03:28: How to handle overwhelming feelings of “emotional neediness” and build self-reliance

01:03:38 – 01:29:34: Analyzing the BetterHelp controversy and its implications for mental health, influencer ethics, and the future of online therapy

 

RESOURCES

“A Life of Meaning: Relocating Your Center of Spiritual Gravity” by James Hollis

Click here to view other books by James Hollis


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The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional.


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