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Sep 2023
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#255: The Secret to Mental Wellbeing and...

SPENCER LODGE
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Get ready for a captivating episode where resilience meets self-discovery! On this week’s episode, we're joined by Owen O’Kane, a psychotherapist, Sunday Times bestselling author, and a prolific speaker who has spent over 25 years translating psychological insights into actionable steps for a more fulfilling life. Owen's journey through the complexities of his upbringing during the Troubles in Northern Ireland, whilst navigating his sexuality, adds a fascinating twist to our conversation. We discuss a wide range of topics, including the impact of religion on his life, growing up amidst conflict, and his powerful insights on stepping out of suffering. Owen's latest book, "How to Be Your Own Therapist," is a focal point of our chat as we uncover practical ways to enhance mental well-being and deepen self-understanding. With his down-to-earth personality and inspiring journey, Owen offers valuable insights that will resonate with anyone looking to improve their mental and emotional well-being. Are you ready to supercharge your life? Hit that play button now!

Discussion points: 

03:20 Leaving his job to become an author08:33 Owen’s upbringing 16:10 Owen’s religious experiences20:28 Working in palliative care23:29 Stepping out of your own suffering28:27 Understanding your narrative 42:15 A look at his book, “How to Be Your Own Therapist”49:40 The power of social media53:22 Fear as a driver, obstacle or protective mechanism1:03:20 How men and women process emotion

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