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Aug 2023
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Avoid These 3 Conversation Pitfalls For ...

THE ART OF CHARM
About this episode

In today’s episode, we cover the 3 pillars of powerful communication with AJ, Johnny, and Coach Michael Herold. 

Humans are social creatures and history has taught us that powerful communication can help anyone achieve any goal we have in life, but what are the 3 pillars of powerful communication, how can you strengthen each one, and what are you risking by never becoming a powerful communicator? 

What to Listen For

  • First pillar of powerful communication – 0:00
  • What is the difference between hearing what someone is telling you vs actively listening to someone?
  • What are the 3 layers of listening you need to understand so the people around you feel like they are important to you?
  • What is the crucial skill you are missing to get ahead professionally, personally, and romantically?


  • Second pillar of powerful communication – 22:17
  • What is the biggest pitfall you make in conversation that can kill a connection and make people not want to talk to you?
  • How do you give people value in a conversation so they want to know more about you and spend more time with you?


  • Third pillar of powerful communication – 35:53
  • What is the one thing you should pay attention to if you don’t want your friendships, relationships, or even your marriage to fail?
  • What is an emotional bid and how do you recognize each of the 9 types in conversation so you can build long lasting connections with anyone you meet?

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