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Aug 2023
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When you're feeling judgmental and criti...

PAUL COLAIANNI
About this episode
I once called judgment "the ultimate relationship destroyer." Judgmental and critical behavior toward those you love will make them love you less. It's a fact. It's undeniable. And if you want to keep people in your life, it's important to understand what breaks down what could be a great connection to someone you love.  
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