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Jul 2023
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943: Classic ACP Anxiety Control And Sur...

GINA RYAN
About this episode

In today's episode, Gina the dynamics between the experience of need for control over our lives, anxiety and the use of the miraculous technique of surrender to help us calm and overcome anxiety. Byron Katie's thought and work is discussed and Gina provides a number of tips for utilizing the ability of surrender to what is to help us improve our lives today.

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What is anxiety?

Quote:

I am a lover of what is, not because I am a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality.

-Byron Katie

Chapters

0:00:24 Introduction to Anxiety Control and Surrender

0:02:43 Listener Email and the Importance of Addressing Underlying Issues

0:06:14 Stoicism and Distinguishing What's in Our Control

0:07:08 Surrendering and Letting Go of Control

0:09:04 Being Present in the Moment and Accepting What Is

0:10:42 Working Towards Goals with Love and Acceptance

0:11:47 Surrendering to the Present Moment and Embracing What Is

0:13:20 Curiosity over Judgment and Control

0:14:11 Seeing the World with Fresh Eyes

0:15:12 Embracing Reality and Letting Go of Control

Summary

Welcome back to the Anxiety Coaches Podcast. Today, we received a beautiful email from our listener, Eric, who expressed gratitude for the podcast and made a donation. We appreciate Eric's kind words and support. Moving on to today's topic, we explore anxiety, control, and surrender.


I recently had a conversation with a client about Byron Katie's book, "Loving What Is," and her concept of "my business, your business, and God's business." It's important to recognize what is within our control and to stay focused on our own business. Stoicism can be a helpful philosophy in this regard, as it guides us to distinguish between what is in our control and what isn't.


Ryan Holiday's writings on stoicism emphasize the importance of making smart decisions, taking care of ourselves, and being in charge of our own lives. Surrendering, in this context, doesn't mean giving up, but rather letting go of the need to control everything and accepting the present moment as it is. Instead of striving for perfection, we should aim to do our best and understand that our best is good enough.


Surrendering is about being fully present in the moment and embracing the things we can control rather than obsessing over the future. We are exploring the concept of surrender and being fully present in the moment. Surrender means accepting things as they are and loving what is. We can start by simply pausing and relaxing into the present moment, rather than trying to control or change things.


The present moment is what it is, and we cannot control it. Surrendering and letting go of control can save us energy and life force. It's important to check our motives for work, goals, and desires. Are they driven by fear or for the good of it?


Surrendering and accepting what is can give us a sense of peace and vitality. We don't need to judge our thoughts and feelings, but instead, be curious about them. Seeing the world through fresh eyes can bring us a renewed appreciation for everyday things.


By practicing surrender and letting go of control, we can find more peace and embrace reality as it is.

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