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Jun 2023
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Can You Get Fit Without Self-Loathing? |...

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It’s an urgent question for so many of us: Can we exercise, can we take care of our bodies, without being driven by shame, self-loathing, or noxious comparison to other people?

Our guest today has a unique perspective on this. Cara Lai is a former social worker and psychotherapist who is now a Buddhist teacher. She also used to be a marathoner. But in the last few years, her body has undergone some radical changes, leading her to some hard-won, fascinating, and deeply useful insights about how to strike the balance between taking care of your body and staying sane.

In this episode we talk about:

  • Practices for that moment when you’re getting out of the shower, see yourself in the mirror, and engage in a festival of self-judgment
  • The surprising things that happened when Cara was forced to stop exercising
  • A counterintuitive mindfulness practice suggestion for those with exercise routines
  • When and why you should purposely do things you know are bad for you
  • Why we often resist ‘being in our bodies,’ why that’s OK, and how to lower the bar on this contemplative cliché–without giving it up
  • A body-related Buddhist practice she finds to be totally not useful

Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/cara-lai-612

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