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Jun 2023
22m 33s

#82: “Am I Being Unreasonable?” (Part 1)

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

One of the things I’m most often asked is “How do I know if I’m being unreasonable in my relationship?”. This can be a really tough enquiry to determine for yourself, particularly when you’re getting a lot of pushback and self-trust may be lacking. 

In today’s episode, I’m offering my take on your specific examples as to whether certain expectations, requests or situations are reasonable (or not), to help you to be able to build your discernment muscle and ultimately feel equipped to make that decision for yourself in your relationships.

We'll cover:

  • Should someone text me everyday after 1 or 2 dates?
  • Asking my partner to stop speaking to his ex because I compare myself with her
  • Asking my significant other to not like scandalous or seductive pictures online
  • Asking my partner to check in with me when they get home safely after drinking
  • Wanting regular sleepovers when my partner sleeps better alone


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