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Jun 2023
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Episode 196: When Women Are (and Aren’t)...

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
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Imagine a woman wanders around a college campus and asks 100 different men at random whether they’d have sex with her. Now imagine a man wandering around the same campus asking 100 women for sex. How many people do you think would agree in each case? It turns out that we have the answers because this exact study has been done before! Today’s show ... Show More
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