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May 2023
41m 15s

Fading Attraction, Catching Feelings For...

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This week Clementine is tackling what to do when you no longer fancy your partner, developing romantic feelings for a friend with benefits & reflecting on a man-child of an ex.

  • When I met my husband when we were both 26, one of the things that attracted me to him was his svelte physique. Post child and as we age (we are now both 40) I find the time to exercise & am conscious of what I eat, but my husband makes minimal effort. When we do have sex, I find myself fantasizing about other men/women and closing my eyes to reach climax. What should I do?
  • I have recently developed romantic thoughts and feelings toward someone I am in a friends with benefits relationship with. How do I process these mixed feelings? Do I box them up and ignore? Do I spill my fantasies and ask them to ride off into the sunset with me? Your big sister guidance is truly appreciated.
  • I recently came out of a five-year relationship. I was doing a lot, if not all of the domestic labour, I work full time, he did not. I would say things like “please… I have to get up for work soon and you get to stay at home all day” - to which he would reply “it’s your choice to work”; or I might say something like “I do so much around here, I wash your clothes, I clean the house” and he would say “that’s your choice to do those things, I don’t ask you to clean my clothes”. Apart from leave the relationship, which I eventually did, how could I have handled this situation? Was there a way to explain why I CHOOSE to work, clean the house and do his laundry?

If you have a question for Clementine, get in touch: dearclementine@novapodcasts.com.au 

CREDITS 
Audio Production: Adrian Walton 
Managing Producer: Elle Beattie 
Executive Producer: Edwina Stott 

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