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Jan 2024
43m 16s

WHY MEN PULL AWAY

Violet Benson
About this episode

WHY DO MEN ALWAYS PULL AWAY IN RELATIONSHIPS!?! whether beginning, middle, or end, it seems to always happen at some point. That is why Violetta did all the research written by men, re-read "Why Men Don't Love Women Like You" and "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" so you don't have to, TO GIVE YOU THE ANSWER YOU'VE BEEN WAITING FOR.

Today, Violetta is set on discussing the psychology behind a man's mind, the three steps to deal with the situation when a man pulls away, and how dating can be beautiful and perfect but it’s all rainbows and butterflies. It often comes with some form of conflict. 


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What to Listen For:

  • 00:00 Introduction
  • 00:46 I booked my parents a trip to Israel
  • 03:05 When a man pulls away, it feels like a bad romcom
  • 05:38 Reason 1: When they feel overwhelmed or uncertain about their feelings
  • 06:26 Reason 2: Some men need space
  • 07:18 Reason 3: They are unsure of the relationship
  • 08:12 Reason 4: The woman is more invested in the relationship
  • 09:41 Step #1: Do not go Britney Spears on him
  • 13:53 Step #2: Do not chase him
  • 15:01 Men and women do things differently
  • 15:40 Imagine that your partner is like a stretched rubberband
  • 18:20 Punishing a man when he pulls away is not the right approach
  • 23:20 Step #3: Focus on yourself
  • 33:17 Dating works but it always comes with some form of conflict 


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