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Apr 2023
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229: Treating Love Addiction with Dr. Co...

Duane Osterlind, LMFT
About this episode

A lot of people go through an experience where they fall madly in love with someone, they crave them, and they want to be with them. There's this addictive nature of romantic love. And then for whatever reason, it doesn't work and you break up. Now, what? That being said, falling in love does not mean something’s wrong with you.

Dr. Cortney S. Warren is a Board Certified Clinical Psychologist and Adjunct Clinical Professor in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Health at the Kirk Kerkorian School of Medicine at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas (UNLV). 

Having won numerous professional awards for her research, Cortney is an expert on addictions, self-deception, romantic relationships, eating pathology, and the practice of psychotherapy from a cross-cultural perspective. 

Today, we’re going to talk about her book, Letting Go of Your Ex: CBT Skills to Heal the Pain of a Breakup and Overcome Love Addiction (2023). This is perfect for readers who are trying to explore breakups through an addictive framework.

In this episode, you will hear:

  • How is love addictive? How do we know when we're in a relationship that might be love addicted? 
  • What to do when we're ending the relationship and how do we get out of that relationship in a way that brings about personal growth and self-actualization?
  • How love addiction goes awry
  • What is love addiction?
  • Evaluating your core beliefs about romantic love
  • How romantic love is portrayed in the media
  • The addictive nature of a breakup
  • What is CBT and how does it work?

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Dr. Cortney Warren’s Social Media links: 

Website: https://drcortney.com/

Psychology Today Naked Truth Blog: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/naked-truth

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CortneySWarren 

Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrCortneyWarren 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drcortney/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLQGXD7Ms5oR3GzsPZl3Tjl_9qj71MezHj

Google Scholar: https://scholar.google.com/citations?user=Ka7bam4AAAAJ&hl=en

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcortneywarren/?hl=en

TEDx Talk: Honest Liars https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YpEeSa6zBTE&t=2s

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drcortneywarren?lang=en 

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