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Mar 2023
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92: Let Them Be Uncomfortable. With Susa...

Jeanne-Marie Paynel, M. Ed.
About this episode

Are you tired of feeling like you have to micromanage everything? Listen in to find out why you should not.

Click here for Show Notes and more from Jeanne-Marie, Your Parenting Mentor

Today, Your Parenting Mentor interviews The Parenting Mentor and how she discovered her calling and made good use of her experiences as an anxious parent and why she believes letting our children be uncomfortable at times is essential.

What We Talked About
  • Sue’s CLEARR Method explained which includes Communication, Love, Empathy, Awareness, Rules/Respect
  • How can parents break free from believing they are in charge and control everything?
  • Allowing our children to feel uncomfortable 
  • Shifting our perspective to be better guides for our children
Things to Remember

“Our kids deserve respect; hearing their ideas, their feelings and validating those feelings.”

“Kids don't like to be dictated to.”

“It’s a huge privilege to watch a human being develop, evolve and grow.”

“Sit back and enjoy the ride. Stop wasting time, you don’t need to micromanage your children.”

“I wish I had me when my kids were younger.”

Susan Groner

“Free the child’s potential and you will transform him into the world.” – Dr. Maria Montessori

“By acknowledging our children’s emotions, we are helping them learn skills for soothing themselves, skills that will serve them well for a lifetime.” – John Gottman, Ph. D

“When our children see us expressing our emotions, they can learn that their own feelings are natural and permissible, can be expressed, and can be talked about.  That’s an important thing for our children to learn.” – Fred Rogers

Click here for Show Notes and more from Jeanne-Marie, Your Parenting Mentor

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