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Mar 2023
1h 30m

Facing Your Darkness To Reach Your Full ...

THE ART OF CHARM
About this episode

In today’s episode, we cover self mastery with Connor Beaton. Connor is the founder of ManTalks, a TEDx speaker, runs a top ranked podcast called ManTalks, and is the author of Men's Work: A Practical Guide to Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, and Find Freedom


We are facing a crisis of masculinity, so what can we learn from other cultures when it comes to helping and encouraging boys to become responsible and powerful men, why is it important for men to have strong friendships with other men, and what are modern men missing that lead them to fail in relationships?


What to Listen For

  • Introduction – 0:00
  • Why are initiation rituals important for men and what price is society paying for not having initiation rituals?
  • Why do men abuse power and what can we do to prepare our sons so they don’t abuse power when they become men?


  • Initiation Rituals – 10:56
  • Why do cultures across the planet use initiation rituals for young boys to enter into manhood?
  • How does your self-talk hold you back from being the person you want to be and how do you improve it?
  • Why is it important to have groups solely for men to be men and talk about men’s issues?


  • Men and Self Development – 26:14 
  • What is the most important thing men should focus on to achieve and maintain their happiness and fulfillment in life?


  • The Secret to Non-Neediness in Relationships – 40:05 
  • What are men lacking in their lives that lead them to be needy in romantic relationships, causing those relationships to fall apart?


Initiation rituals have been used throughout history to help transition young boys into manhood. These rites of passage can teach us many things, but the most salient theme that remains is the need for men to face failure and powerlessness so as to enter manhood with a strong sense of self and humility. With positive self-talk we can stop ourselves from believing any false disclosures we face and learn how to think positively and productively. It is also important that men find male-only spaces where they can be men and talk about their issues. 


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