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Feb 2023
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11. WHATADO: Draining Friendships and Lu...

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It's the moment we've all been waiting for - the return of the WHATADO. This time, Jess and Caroline spend nearly an entire episode responding to listener submitted scenarios, from "whatado when your friend treats you like their therapist" to "whatado when you're not sexually attracted to the great guy you're dating" and more. We talk about setting boundaries, the elusive spark, then go into a rapid fire segment where Jess asks Caroline to respond to a few more whatados that she hadn't seen prior (spoiler: this was in no way rapid, but boy was it fiery). 

We also lament the lifelong plight of whether or not to cut our hair, and Jess takes a page from the hater's book and shares a petty complaint from the week. 

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This episode was edited by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse.

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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA

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