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Feb 2023
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10. Not for the Right Headspace

Not For Everyone
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Opening up with a bang (see what we did there), Caroline updates Jess on the recent end to her "celibacy" (now you see), which turns into an even more important update on the age-old question, "what is DJ?" After this lesson in music theory, we shift gears and talk about headspace - specifically Jess', and why it's never right. We muse on what it means to protect our energy, and how that may differ for introverts and extroverts. Either way, it's important to both of us to spend time alone to get in touch with the things we actually enjoy, so we share some tips for listeners on getting more comfortable with solitude.

Caroline has a bone to pick with a certain type of jewelry, and also a certain type of dating profile. This leads to an ill-defined conversation on our ick lists - one much more reasonable than the other.

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Production Credits: Abi Newhouse

Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA

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