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Feb 2023
1h 26m

Secure The Ring w/ Patti Stanger

Violet Benson
About this episode

Hey Besties! In the second week of the LOVE month, we will focus on dating - when to know when you’ve found the right man for you.

Today on Almost Adulting, Violet is once again joined by Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger. There is no stopping the two from going deep into the dating game. They discuss how success can affect the relationship depending on who’s more successful, turning casual dates into serious relationships (that can potentially lead to engagement, and eventually marriage), how a man’s attitude is dependent on whether he’s found the ‘right’ girl for him, the ups and downs that comes with dating, and so much more! 


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What to Listen For:

  • 00:00 Introduction
  • 04:03 Securing the ring
  • 08:44 You own a home and you’re successful
  • 13:57 Cheating
  • 15:30 Casual to serious dating
  • 24:27 Don’t live together if you’re not engaged
  • 28:40 When he decides to marry you
  • 31:44 The switch
  • 34:54 Attachment style and love language
  • 40:29 The man is consistent, the boy is not
  • 45:36 They will be romantic for the right girl
  • 49:40 Men bond through emotions and consistency
  • 55:16 Not everyday is perfect
  • 59:01 Sex magic
  • 01:06:02 When you can’t see a future with someone
  • 01:08:50 A pair and a spare
  • 01:15:19 The motherly partner
  • 01:19:06 When you know you’re the deal
  • 01:21:07 A restart or a negotiation?
  • 01:25:59 Tips to better dating life 


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