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Jun 2021
1h 18m

Using Love and Logic to Raise Resilient ...

Dave Asprey
About this episode

How would you like to make parenting fun and rewarding, instead of stressful and chaotic? (And if you’re a grown-up son or daughter, you may want to improve your own relationship with your parents.} 

In this episode of Bulletproof Radio, Charles Fay, Ph.D., gives practical and down-to-earth solutions to the most common and frustrating behaviors displayed by kids of all ages. He’s also a parent himself who admittedly makes mistakes. Parents can be frustrating, too.

The internationally recognized Love and Logic® approach he relies on come directly from years of research and clinical experience with severely disturbed youth and their families in psychiatric hospitals, public and private schools, and homes.

You’ll learn strategies and techniques from Dr. Fay that you can apply to daily parenting. This works for teachers and educators, too.

There are the 5 non-negotiable core principles of Love and Logic® that he talks through during the podcast. These can absolutely change your family dynamic: Mutual Dignity/Respect, Shared Thinking, Shared Control, Empathy and Relationship.

Dr. Fay also gives real-time action steps for implementing key components of resiliency: 1) emotional connection, 2) healthy limits, and 3) success experiences.

We talk about the emergence of “helicopter parenting” and why it doesn’t work. “We got to be able to offload problems onto the shoulders of the people who really need to own them, and we do it with love, but we do our friends, our family no favor when we're solving all their problems for them,” Dr. Charles says.

If you’re struggling, either a little or a lot, with the kids you parent or teach, you’ll get a lot of value out of this episode. If you want simple ways to better connect with your kids, you’ll get some nuggets of wisdom you can start using today.

Go to the Love and Logic Institute to find a wealth of resources for parents, educators and trainers. In particular, look for “7 Ways To Create A Respectful, Responsible, and Resilient Family” that was created in partnership with Dr. Daniel Amen. 

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