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Jan 2024
31m 39s

Narcissists & Boundaries

Violet Benson
About this episode

Hey Besties! Welcome to the second week of Benson Bootcamp, a boot camp specifically designed to help you become the best version of yourself, no matter how bad it hurts. It’s called BOOTCAMP for a reason, duh!

This week on Almost Adulting we’re having the difficult discussion about boundary setting. Though it may be hard, these realizations will not only be long-lasting, but also help you love yourself a little more. Violet tells an in depth story about her friend who possesses the fatal victim mentality flaw. Ya know, that kind of friend who never fails to make EVERYTHING about themselves, and when you finally cut them off your life becomes inexplicably better? Yeah, that type. But that’s what setting boundaries can do. It aids you in protecting your mental health, having inner peace, and taking control of your own emotions and thoughts even when you don’t have control over other people’s words and actions. Besties, if there’s one thing you take from this please let it be that you are NEVER selfish for setting boundaries and prioritizing yourself. You are your biggest advocate and supporter, now act like it! 


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What to Listen For:

  • 00:00 Introduction
  • 00:53 Let’s call my friend Nicole
  • 15:51 The main issue is my lack of boundaries
  • 19:41 Everyone gets tired of pretending
  • 21:00 When you start setting boundaries for yourself
  • 25:09 “We never really know why people do what they do.”
  • 27:13 We can choose to not be a victim


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