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Jan 2023
19m 10s

Finding a Lighter Path

Essential Communications - Tom Henschel
About this episode

A leader, stuck in an unhealthy cycle, searches for a way out. In conversation with his coach, he learns a four-square tool that just might work.

A new free Essential Tool illustrating the four-square model is available for download in the Essential Tools bin. No login required. Help yourself.

The model in this month’s episode is a variation on The ACT Matrix. Here’s our favorite YouTube video about The Matrix.

The creators of The ACT Matrix wrote a book to help practitioners use the tool.


This current episode is tagged in the library in three categories:

Developing New Behaviors

Managing Yourself

Self-Talk


Here are five episodes to help you get unstuck: 

7 Steps to Stop Emotional Hijacks*

Blind Spots

How to Build Self-Awareness*

How to Grow your Self-Management*

How to Show Up

* Indicates there’s a PDF in the Essential Tools bin to support the ideas in that episode.


We are so excited to dive into the new year with you all! 


All the best,

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

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