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Dec 2022
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A Self-Interested Case for Forgiveness |...

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The allure of resentment, of holding a grudge or nursing your rage can be super powerful. 

In today’s episode, Jack Kornfield, one of the great western meditation masters, talks about Buddhist strategies for not holding grudges and the self-interested case for forgiveness. This episode is the first of a two-part series this week on forgiveness. 

In this conversation we talk about: 

  • What forgiveness is and isn’t 
  • Whether forgiveness is a single act or an ongoing process
  • The cost of not forgiving
  • A forgiveness practice you can try in your meditation
  • Whether it’s possible to respond to the misdeeds and transgressions of others with force and love at the same time
  • Whether there are things that are unforgivable
  • And Jack’s contention that forgiveness involves a shift in identity

Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/jack-kornfield-533

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