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Dec 2022
52m 55s

The Externalizer, The Over-Explainer and...

Naomi Rather, LCMHC and Deborah Curtis, LICSW founders of Seacoast EFT
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Deb and Nao describe three common behaviors that fuel the negative cycle when we're triggered, and offer tips for change. By recognizing and exiting these modes, we are more likely to find the reassurance, comfort and connection that we need. 

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