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Apr 2021
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Closing the door so that you can stop ov...

PAUL COLAIANNI
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Sometimes you have no idea why someone did something that hurt or affected you somehow, and you just have to know the reason. You may never find out because they won't share that reason. I call this an open loop. It's how we become obsessed with certain thoughts that we can't get closure for. When this happens, life can seem to stop, and anxiety and depressi ... Show More
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