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Nov 2022
34m 25s

Signs You Need to Deal With Your Trauma

Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC and Creator of TrueLoveDates.com
About this episode

Q: I have a history of trauma from my past, but I never realized how much I do today stems from what I’ve been through in the past until I started reading Are You Really OK? What are some sings that I have unprocessed trauma from the past I need to deal with?

We’re taking all your questions on our new ASK A COUNSELOR series!! We’re doing this series because I wanted to introduce you to the Counselors from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get to know them the way I’m getting to know them!

Today’s question comes from Ann from Pennsylvania, who wants to know the signs and symptoms that she may have unprocessed trauma in her past that she needs to deal with. In other words, what are some signs you need to DEAL WITH YOUR TRAUMA. 

It’s amazing how many people believe that their “personality” or struggles or the way they do things is just who they are — rather than seeing the impacts from the experiences of their past.

What you do in your PRESENT is often a result of what you experienced in your PAST.

Today, I tag-team this question with Sandy Wilda (BOOK A SESSION WITH Sandy).  Sandy is a trauma specialist, and today she and I talk through the the impacts of trauma, how it can effect your life in the present, some signs that you have unprocessed trauma, as well as how to actually heal from your past. Sandy is an incredible counselor, and I’m so looking forward to you getting to know her today as we talk about signs you need to deal with your trauma.

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She’s written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on FacebookInstagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today!

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