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Nov 2022
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Why Sexual Attraction is Crucial to Any ...

Impact Theory
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Does your partner make you feel sexy? Do they appreciate you for the work you put in to look good for them? Is your partner not displaying enough affection, attraction, or giving enough compliments? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore what to do if your partner isn’t complimenting you or displaying signs of affection in a way that would make you feel sexy and attractive. They discuss the importance of raw sexual attraction with your partner, why giving compliments is crucial, how your self-esteem shouldn’t fully rely on your partner’s opinions, why communication might be the root cause of your problems, why externalizing thoughts is a trained skill and requires work, and why both partners need to have a deep understanding of each other’s love language.


SHOW NOTES:

Feeling Attractive | Lisa and Tom discuss what to do if your partner doesn’t compliment. [0:30]

Compliments | Tom and Lisa discuss the need for signs of affection in a relationship. [2:10]

Self-Esteem | Lisa and Tom discuss why you shouldn’t rely on others for confidence. [3:31]

Communication | Lisa and Tom discuss the importance of communicating your needs. [5:19]

Externalize | Tom and Lisa discuss why externalizing thoughts is a trained skill. [6:05]

Love Language | Lisa and Tom discuss the importance of knowing your partner’s needs. [8:42]


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