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The Minimalists speak with Wendy Smith, author of Both/And Thinking, about shortening cycles of inner conflict. Listen to all two hours of episode 364 on The Minimalists Private Podcast.

Discussed in this episode:

How do we better analyze and accept our shortcomings and failures? (01:57)

What is “emotional ambivalence”? (10:38)

How do we tactfully manage rocky relationships with family and friends? (15:13)

How do we commit to leaving an unfulfilling job? (19:12)

What are “competence traps”? (21:35)

Detailed show notes: minimalists.com/podcast

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