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May 2022
23m 22s

Learn What You Can Control

Amie McNee and James Winestock
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We talk about how much easier your creative journey becomes when you start to get an understanding of what you can and can't control. That means taking a moment to filter as much as you can through the lens of: controllable, not controllable. Just doing that sorting can help relieve stress and alleviate the sense of helplessness we can sometimes get when things don't go our way. This is a tool you can use to stay more process driven, not get rattled as much by setbacks, and generally enjoy your journey more. When I don't actively practice this, I feel way more out of alignment.


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