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Oct 2022
15m 54s

How to Overcome Resentment Towards Your ...

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Resentment, comparison, and our partner’s life circumstances versus our own. What do we do when our situation in life seems overwhelmingly harder than our partner’s and how do we deal with resentment in a healthy way? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they address resentment towards your partner in a relationship and how to overcome such feelings in a positive-healthy way. They discuss why we compare ourselves to our partner, why we need to take ownership of our life’s decisions, why resentment is just the projection of our own insecurities, and why we need to shift our focus back towards ourselves rather than onto others.


SHOW NOTES:

Comparing | Lisa and Tom reveal how to stop comparing yourself to your significant other. [0:27]

Taking Ownership | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of owning your decisions. [2:22]

Projection | Lisa and Tom discuss how we mirror and reflect resentment onto our partners. [4:17]

Both Sides | Tom and Lisa discuss both sides of projecting resentment in a relationship. [5:21]

Focus | Tom and Lisa discuss why resentment truly doesn’t move you towards your goals. [8:48]

Acceptance | Lisa and Tom discuss not holding your wants in life against your partner. [10:29]


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