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Feb 2023
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How To STOP F*cking FIGHTING, Communicat...

Impact Theory
About this episode

There are few things in life more special than experiencing a lifelong love with a partner that you can grow and evolve with through anything. How can you create that experience with so many complexities and confusion around how to come together and get on the same page?


Tom Bilyeu is not only a co-founder of Quest Nutrition, he’s also the co-founder and business partner of Impact Theory alongside Lisa Bilyeu. They’ve officially passed 20 years of marriage, of navigating each other’s identities, ambitions and health scares and come from zero to a billion and are still going?


Relationships are hard enough without the addition of outside stress and pressure, but you’ve figured that out. So, then what has Tom and Lisa figured out over 20 years that’s helped them survive their toughest year together? 2022 was a year that would have broken most relationships and this episode is a candid look into the level of communication and commitment that Tom and Lisa have developed through the years.


Relationship takeaways from this episode:

Have a shared vision of the future you can move towards together

Majority of relationship problems are a frame of reference problem

There’s often an insecurity at the base of your anger, know what it is to resolve conflict

Emotions feel like fact, proceed with caution

Write down 5-10 values in every area of your life in a single sentence and order them.


QUOTES:


“It’s easy to be in something when it’s just fun and games, but it becomes harder to be in something when times are hard.”


“You can’ be looking for why it's the other person’s fault, you have to be looking for what am I doing wrong.”


“Ladies, if you want to become the hardest core possible version of yourself, my advice, do it in a way that is different from your man.”


“When two well intelligent well-meaning people collide they have a different base assumption.”


“There is nothing better that life has to offer you than a shared life, that’s why people love friends, people love family, it’s why being in a marriage is amazing.”


“PSA, if you have a strong emotion, you can’t trust it.”


“They say the greatest hell is meeting the version of you that you could’ve been.”


“Pick a path that doesn’t over optimize for today.”



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