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Sep 2022
40m 4s

How Secure People Respond To Rejection

BETCHES MEDIA
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J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out with a refresher on the “reveal” and what being “exclusive but not in a relationship'' actually means. The emailer writes in about how she regrets responding poorly to a reveal from a guy she was dating. She tried to make up for it, but he ended the relationship a few weeks later. Did she ruin it with her original response to his reveal? Or is she just more attracted to him now that he’s pulled away? Plus, they talk about how people with secure attachment styles respond to rejection.

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