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Jun 2025
38m 45s

I Got Rejected 567 Times… Which is Why I...

Connell Barrett
About this episode
Fear of rejection can make you freeze. It’s why you don’t say hi to the stylish woman at the café or make a move on the date. In this episode of. “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett gets raw and real about his own fear of rejection. He also shares how getting blown off so many times (“F-off, Ginger!”) actually opened the door to real romantic wins! If you’re tired of being too afraid to make move, this episode will change your dating life.

Episode Highlights:

05:44: The Rejection that Changed Connell’s Dating Life

09:45: The 2 Hidden Forces that Create Your Fear of Rejection

14:35: When Connell’s Date Left Him—Mid-Date!—for Another Guy

18:35: “F---- off, Ginger!” How a Brutal Brush-Off Led to an Incredible Romantic Win

27:00: 4 New Ways to Look at Rejection and Become a Fearless, Confident Man

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