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Oct 2015
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Fan Mail Friday #34 | Alt Girls, Nice Gu...

THE ART OF CHARM
About this episode

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #34! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend!
In this episode:

How do you deal with an overwhelming sense of envy that springs up whenever you encounter someone with more talent, better looks, or some other perk of an imagined "good life" that you feel you'll never experience? (Depending on your situation, therapy might be one way to address it.)
A besieged Syrian under fire loves his country and doesn't want to leave; he writes in for practical advice from us and friends of the show who have experience surviving in war zones. Marine Sean Rafferty was kind enough to offer some of his best tips.
An Art of Charm boot camp veteran sees his old friends in a new -- and unflattering -- light since returning home. Is he just a jerk, or have they always been negative, self-destructive, and unpleasant to be around?
Are you more fun when you're single?
A nice guy posits, as many nice guys before him: why do girls only seem to love jerks?
Are they all going to laugh at you if you bring the heavily pierced and tattooed significant other to one of your company's hoity-toity shindigs?
What to do when your job sucks.
Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com!

Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-34-alt-girls-nice-guys-and-bad-friends/
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