logo
episode-header-image
Aug 2022
21m 35s

#299: How to Support Kids Healthy Strivi...

Erin Royer, MA Clinical Psychology, Child Development Specialist
About this episode

A healthy for personal growth and goals is a good thing, while perfectionism is push to be and do everything perfectly, an impossible standard. Perfectionism often comes from a fear of judgement and research shows perfectionism is far more nurture than nature. In this episode I cover how to support kids in developing a healthy mindset in setting and striving for goals without spilling over into the unhealthy striving that shows up as perfectionism.



Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/parenting-beyond-discipline/exclusive-content

Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Up next
Jul 2024
Dealing with Needy & Attention Seeking Behaviors
A listener wants to know if it's OK to always pick up a fussy, needy toddler who always wants to be held? Will this responsiveness perpetuate more neediness and get in the way of building independence? Another mom wants to know how to handle a particular attention-seeking beh ... Show More
14m 24s
Jun 2024
How to Balance Short Term vs. Long Term Parenting Goals
It's easy to get overwhelmed in the day-to-day. Pretty soon you're flying by the seat of your pants and can't seem to get your feet under you. How do you switch focus from constantly putting out fires to parenting with more intention? Then sometimes parenting in the s ... Show More
18m 47s
May 2024
Dealing with Toddler Defiance and Aggression
Toddlerhood is the first big push for independence and with that often comes defiance. How do we support independence while also setting healthy boundaries? One mom asks for some guidance on dealing with her toddler's defiance, while another asks about how to deal with her to ... Show More
18m 22s
Recommended Episodes
Sep 2023
135: How Do I Combat My Kid's Perfectionism?
What causes kids to struggle with perfectionism? Dr. Lisa explains why young people sometimes hold themselves to unsustainable standards and how adults can help them to set realistic goals. Reena asks how parents can counter the harmful self-talk that often accompanies perfection ... Show More
26m 38s
Sep 2021
749 - The Truth About Perfectionism
Get this episode ad-free when you join TLBC+ today: https://tlbc.co/join In this episode, I share the truth about perfectionism. Get excited, because this is Tiny Leaps, Big Changes. Welcome to another episode of Tiny Leaps, Big Changes where I share research-backed strategies yo ... Show More
16m 5s
Apr 2021
#8: You Don't Need to be Perfect, Believe Me
Are you a perfectionist? Or maybe you're trying to be the "flawless person" you think that you're expected to be. Beneath it, is a fear that you're not good enough as you are. Today, I'll show you how to reconnect with your Authentic Self and heal your inner c ... Show More
25m 49s
May 2023
86. Perfectionism and academic anxiety
Perfectionism is on the rise amongst young people, and in this episode we break down exactly what it means to have perfectionist tendencies. We examine the theories of personality, our upbringing, links to OCD and ADHD and what it means for academic performance and anxiety. We al ... Show More
42m 20s
Jan 2016
Ep 63 - Progress, Not Perfection
Many people suffer from "perfectionism" nowadays. We aren't satisfied with what we do because we expect more from ourselves. The problem with that is our lack of perfection becomes an excuse for not finishing our goals. In this episode I talk about how the important thing is to f ... Show More
13m 58s
May 2024
The Science Of Overcoming Perfectionism | Thomas Curran
New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers. --- Actionable advice on working with one of the few socially acceptable vices. Whilst striving for perfection might seem logical on some level, it’s not actuall ... Show More
1h 11m
Sep 2023
34 — Stop Being a Perfectionist and Embrace Your Imperfections with Professor Thomas Curran
Perfectionism takes a serious toll on your mental health and well-being. It's often driven by the fear of not being good enough and involves a desire to get validation from others. It often leads to anxiety, depression, and loneliness.Fortunately, there are some things that can h ... Show More
39m 59s
Mar 2023
283. Wellness Perfectionism
Perfectionism is everywhere, it’s sneaky. And this week I want to talk about a little thing I like to call wellness perfectionism. No matter what tips, tools, and tricks we know for regulating our minds (and nervous systems) there’s no way for us to avoid having the human experie ... Show More
19m 48s
Jun 2024
How to Fight Perfectionism
Holding yourself to impossibly high standards is self-defeating and makes for a miserable life. Can Dr Laurie Santos find ways to tackle her constant perfectionism so she can perform better and have more fun?  She hears from researcher Thomas Curran about a worrying growth in per ... Show More
29m 43s