In this episode of "It's Not Me, It's You," John and Vanessa discuss what loving with your past looks like and how important it is to love without your past in your current relationship.
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Oct 9
Hard Things to Bring Up in Therapy | Love is Better. Not Harder.
In this Q&A, John Kim answers your raw, unfiltered questions about love, attachment, and what it actually takes to build a healthy relationship. From anxious-avoidant dynamics to retroactive jealousy and emotional unavailability — this one gets real. Whether you’re questioning if ... Show More
16m 37s
Oct 8
I Knew on My Wedding Day He Wasn’t the One
What happens when your dream wedding hides a truth your body already knows? In this powerful conversation, writer and author Amber Rae opens up to John Kim about walking down the aisle knowing she was marrying the wrong man - and the courage it took to leave, fall in love again, ... Show More
52m 41s
Oct 6
How I Traded Hollywood Dreams for a Real Life
What happens when the blueprint you’ve been chasing - cars, houses, status - no longer fits who you’ve become? In this powerful episode, John Kim shares how he traded Hollywood dreams for a meaningful life in Costa Rica, and how redefining his blueprint transformed everything. In ... Show More
20m 5s
Jul 2024
Why There’s No Such thing As the Right Person at the Wrong Time & Why Your Ex Was Never The One
Do you believe in "right person, wrong time"? Do you have realistic expectations about dating? Today, Jay will discuss the popular notion of the "right person at the wrong time." He explains that this idea often stems from nostalgia, which can distort our memories by emphasizing ... Show More
24m 50s
Dec 2024
Episode 684: Your Ex Doesn't Care NOW, But They WILL Care Later
In order for your ex to break up with you, their interest level had to go below 50%. However, that doesn't mean it won't go back up after the breakup. Dating/relationship expert Lucia shares why even though you ex doesn't care about you now, they will care later.
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10m 1s
Jan 2025
Il m’a trompée et n'a pas regretté
Que ce soit en amour, en amitié ou en famille, les relations toxiques sont bien plus courantes qu'on ne le croit... J'en ai moi-même vécues dans ces 3 circonstances. Pour en parler plus en profondeur et avoir un autre prisme, j'ai invité Laureen, ma maquilleuse et amie, qui a véc ... Show More
49m 59s
Mar 2025
Commitment vs. Compatibility: Are You in the Right Relationship?
In this episode, I explore the difference between commitment and compatibility, sharing my personal experience navigating these challenges in a past relationship. I also discuss how to recognize the distinction, helping you better assess whether you’re in the right relationship.L ... Show More
14m 29s