In this episode of "It's Not Me, It's You," John and Vanessa discuss what loving with your past looks like and how important it is to love without your past in your current relationship.
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Mar 4
How I’ve Made Women Feel Unsafe
In this episode, I walk through my past relationships and take ownership of the ways I’ve been unsafe. I share specific moments - steamrolling my ex-wife with logic instead of empathy, making subtle body comments that landed harder than I understood, ending relationships abruptly ... Show More
29m 56s
Mar 2
Fight Without Fighting: How to Build Real Intimacy
Most of us were never taught how to communicate in relationships. So we react. We defend. We assume. We build resentment. In this solo episode, John reframes “communication” as something deeper: intimacy, attunement, and repair. Because it’s not the conflict that destroys relatio ... Show More
27m 11s
Feb 26
Therapy Thursdays | Is It Over… Or Worth Saving?
In this episode, I answer your questions about breakups, expired relationships, and finding the courage to choose yourself. We talk about how to let go when you’re struggling to accept it’s over, how to know if a relationship is worth saving, and what it really takes to leave. I ... Show More
19m 51s
Jul 2024
Why There’s No Such thing As the Right Person at the Wrong Time & Why Your Ex Was Never The One
Do you believe in "right person, wrong time"? Do you have realistic expectations about dating? Today, Jay will discuss the popular notion of the "right person at the wrong time." He explains that this idea often stems from nostalgia, which can distort our memories by emphasizing ... Show More
24m 50s
Dec 2024
Episode 684: Your Ex Doesn't Care NOW, But They WILL Care Later
<p>In order for your ex to break up with you, their interest level had to go below 50%. However, that doesn't mean it won't go back up after the breakup. Dating/relationship expert Lucia shares why even though you ex doesn't care about you now, they will care later.<br><br>Get ... Show More
10m 1s
Oct 2025
How to Find Yourself Again After a Breakup
After a breakup, we don’t just miss the other person — we often miss the version of ourselves we were with them. In this episode, Dora shares how relationships reflect parts of us, why it hurts when that mirror breaks, and how to reconnect with the playful, confident, free self t ... Show More
4m 46s
Jan 2025
Il m’a trompée et n'a pas regretté
Que ce soit en amour, en amitié ou en famille, les relations toxiques sont bien plus courantes qu'on ne le croit... J'en ai moi-même vécues dans ces 3 circonstances. Pour en parler plus en profondeur et avoir un autre prisme, j'ai invité Laureen, ma maquilleuse et amie, qui a véc ... Show More
49m 59s
Nov 2025
Ep. 313 - I wasted so much time with my ex
If you've been stuck replaying the thought, "I wasted so many years on my ex," this episode is going to blow your mind. Dorothy breaks down why those years weren't lost, they were the reason your life is about to move faster, clearer, and bigger than ever before. You'll learn how ... Show More
16m 35s
