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Jul 2022
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"Why can’t I stand intimacy at all?" ep....

Kati Morton, LMFT
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Ask Kati Anything ep. 120 | Your mental health podcast, with Licensed Therapist Kati Morton, LMFT  

Audience questions: 

  1.  Hey Kati, Thank you so much for everything you do. I have been watching your channel for years! I’ve been wondering why I can’t stand intimacy at all? Not even being touched in a non sexual way such as being hugged or even just lightly touched on the arm. It makes me feel super uncomfortable! I’ve never had...  
  2.  I have a question about conversations about sexual preference. I've never been in a relationship myself (I’m 26) because I’m scared if someone gets too close to me. I feel like I have to be more into “relationships'' and there's something wrong with me. When I get into a conversation, there have been a few times that someone was asking if I'm attracted to women...  
  3.  Can you talk about how building trust with your therapist is supposed to work? I struggle to trust my therapist, and to know whether not trusting them is warranted or not. In the past, I felt pressured to talk about my problems with my therapist (a different one), and I...  
  4.  What are some ways to find closure with your trauma after sexual assault if you decide not to press charges? I have decided that pressing charges would be harmful, but the fact that I haven't done it still weighs heavily on my heart, mind, body and spirit. I think I see pressing charges as a form of closure but in a lot of ways, I really think it would do more harm to...  
  5.  I would love your opinion on causes of dissociation during sex. I am a gay woman but dealt with a lot of shame growing up and used to sleep with men where i experienced dissociation . However now that i am actually being myself and being intimate with women which is more true to myself, i am still...  
  6.  Why is it so triggering when others show concern or try to be nurtured after childhood trauma and emotional neglect?  If my therapist asks if I’m doing ok during a difficult week I freak out because she has picked up on it. I don’t like to share information or emotions and am terrified of being easy to read....  
  7.  Could you talk about why it might be that I am repulsed by / uninterested in sex but my (older) sister isn't, even though she experienced sexual assault when we were children and I only experienced it indirectly through the effect it had on her? She...  
  8.  I am an adult child of two parents with narcissistic personality disorder. Due to massive emotional abuse, emotional neglect and a lot of gaslighting in childhood, I never learned to confide in other people and even less to talk about my problems...

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