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Jul 2022
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Define “Relationship” w/ See The Thing I...

Violet Benson
About this episode

Hey, Besties! It’s the first Thursday of July and this month, we are celebrating relationships! My favorite topic because I am OBVIOUSLY so good at them! So get comfortable because we’re about to get uncomfortable! This entire month we’re discussing love, partnerships, the different types of partnerships, and unpacking all the good, bad, and the ugly that comes with them! But before we get into that, Violet gives a quick life update and tells us about her recent rendezvous to Greece, where she planned on sight seeing and ATVing, but…all she got was c*caine and ket. Better luck next time!


See the thing is, we’re ALMOST Adulting. Never said we were all the way there yet! Today, we have Bridget Kelly & Mandii B, hosts of the See, The Thing Is podcast - and with Violet joining the mix, we’ve found the trio you never knew you needed! In this episode we’re covering it ALL. From being the other woman, being the cheater, why or why not we plan on getting married, and even childhood trauma that shaped how we approach relationships in our adult lives. Violet, Bridget, and Mandii start the conversation off hot by diving into the various types of relationships, from the most traditional types, to the polar opposite. With varying opinions on basically everything, this episode is sure to open your mind to some things you definitely have never considered before. The trio also discusses living as modern day women (who’s independent and doesn’t need ANY man - but may want one!) and where men stand when in a relationship with self-sustaining, self-providing, successful career women. We’re starting this month off hot besties, so get ready!


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What to Listen For:

  • 00:00 Introduction
  • 03:21 My “amazing” vacation in Greece 
  • 12:43 Compartmentalizing relationships
  • 13:53 Do you believe in marriage?
  • 17:53 Is a healthy polyamorous relationship sustainable?
  • 22:39 When you cheated on your partner…
  • 27:00 How does it feel like to cheat on someone?
  • 28:41 The perfect partner?
  • 37:24 As a modern day woman
  • 42:19 Is it so strange to have so many friends?
  • 46:23 Don’t discount your education completely
  • 51:30 Successful women set the bar high
  • 52:37 What are the 3 things you look for in someone?
  • 56:17 Should you forgive your parents for not being perfect?
  • 58:50 Dating a man with children
  • 01:05:58 You don’t need to agree but stay respectful
  • 01:11:05 You can tell when someone goes to therapy
  • 01:13:16 Living with the truth of who you really are


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