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Dec 2019
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32 - Turning Desire Into Preferences

Anthony De Mello/The DeMello Spirituality Center
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If you just suppress your desire and you attempt to renounce the object of your desire, you are likely to be tied to it. Whereas if you look at it and see it for what it is really worth, if you understand how you are preparing the grounds for misery and disappointment and depression, your desire will then be transformed into what I call a preference.  When y ... Show More
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