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Jun 2022
54m 48s

How To Build Rapport Quickly With Anyone...

THE ART OF CHARM
About this episode

In today’s episode, we cover building high value relationships with AJ & Johnny. 

Building high value relationships requires vulnerability, but what does it mean to be vulnerable, how do you know when to be vulnerable, and what are some simple strategies you can use to be more effective in relationship building?

What to Listen For

  • Introduction – 0:00
  • Why is it important to build high value relationships?
  • How do you start making new friends?
  • Turn Small Talk into Smart Talk – 12:00 
  • Why is vulnerability important when building connections with people?
  • How do you bring vulnerability into your social interactions?
  • The Three Levels of Vulnerability – 17:00
  • What is the first level of vulnerability and how do you know when to use it?
  • How do you know when to go to the deepest level of vulnerability?
  • What red flags should you look for in the way people react to your vulnerability?
  • The Cave Analogy of Vulnerability – 37:50
  • Why is it important to lead with vulnerability before expecting others to be vulnerable?

We hope that you walk away from this episode feeling empowered to build high value relationships with others. By being vulnerable and authentic, we create opportunities for true connection and intimacy. When we lead with vulnerability, it sets the tone for a more open and connected relationship in which both parties can be their true selves. What are you waiting for? Start building those connections today!

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